October 9, 2005
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It's painful for me when my kids break up with their boyfriends. It always has been. Erin (21) moved home on Thursday night after ending an 8-month relationship. I'm grieving a bit as I always do when one of the girls' relationships ends. It started way back with Robin's first boyfriend; she had dated him for about 3 or so years and even though I knew that she wasn't happy, I was still sad for both of them. I do everything I can to accept a new partner into their lives and I never think at the time of how it will feel if it doesn't work out. I have been through this more than a half-dozen times and it still surprises me that I feel pain.
I sometimes think that I might be better off being aloof and indifferent. But that's not the way that I am and I know it.
So I have a grieving daughter here, a sick husband (he has a slight pneumonia), a sick body (virus), and PMS. Fun place.
On the lighter side, I do leave for Boise on Tuesday to see Sarah, Jake, Jim and Austin. Bad thing is I don't think that my Jim is going to make the trip with his pneumonia. The most appropriate thing I can think of is, "Oy vey". Oh...and Chase barfed all over me today.
Comments (8)
Definitely not a good day for you! Hope today is much better, and you, Jim and Chase feel better. You know, I believe that we as mothers, still think of our children as being too vulnerable--there to soothe the boo-boos, as well as soothe their broken hearts.
You're runnin' a daggone infirmary there ~ SO sorry for you all!
Sounds like you need a batch of homemade chicken soup! Won't help Erin, but time will. I don't think we ever get outta hurtin' for our kids. I didn't used to understand the addage that says "once a parent, always a parent" but I surely do now. Gosh, hope you all perk up enough for you to feel good about leaving home later on in the week. Take your vits, rest and I will pray for each one. Oh, btw, that pic of Jakey absomalutely rocks! What a big boy he's getting to be. (((gentle hugs!))) 
You are so cool to take your daughter's boyfriends into your heart. I don't know many mums who would bother! Have a good trip.
How cool is it that he wrote it as "mums". That rocks. Honestly made my day.
DADS SICK?????THAT IS NOT OKAY!!! D-AAAAAAAAAA-MM-I-TTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!
Damn it all to hell!! I really wanted to see my dad!!! Poor guy! What next right?? I am so sorry he is sick. I hope he gets better. I will say a prayer for him. I guess he will have to trust your judgement on his future state
yeah, I heard you git thrown up on. Second time you caught it right?? Poor bubbies. At least it wasn't Robin who got puked on. It would have been a barf-o-rama
I can see how you would be surprised to still grieve over boyfriends. We have put you through quite a few eh?? I wonder if it would be at all different if the three of us were not "relationship" girls. Cause lets face it. None of us have been able to "casually" date. It is like we like a guy and decide that it is relationship time. No inbetween. I wonder what its like on the other side??
BUT anyways, thank you for always being such a supportive mom. You have been with us through soooo much with all our relationships. It has always been nice to know that you were there for all of us. In any of our times
LOVE YOU MAMA!!!
CANNOT WAIT!!!
Sarah
PS-Bring some depends
Man you ARE having a not-fun day. Viruses are the worst, man. It's sooo exhausting to be sick. That's cute you feel bad when your kids have a break up. I wonder if my mom feels that way, too. ...prolly not.
With Chloe age 11 and going on 23 your post has filled me with angst...you sound like you take a really supportive and steady on approach to your daughter's dating and disappointments, I respect and envy you.
Lisa , those separations always are painful for ....the parents . I know that , unfortunatly . I am sorry to hear that .
Love
Michel
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